When things don't go your way, how do you respond? Do you lash out, become critical, pout? What is your go-to reaction? This might be a good way to evaluate how you're preparing your child to respond in similar scenarios of opposition, rejection, failure, isolation, and discrimination. In varying degrees, these realities intersect with your child's day as well.
As parents, if we are constantly orchestrating, constructing, and sculpting the landscape so that our little ones don't have to be uncomfortable, hurt, or even treated unfairly, what are we preparing them for? You got it....a cycle. Of course we want our children to be even "better prepared" than we were. Regardless of an ideal childhood, adolescence, or young adult experience, it's only natural to want MORE for our babies.
Life happens, people will disappoint, things will be inconvenient, complicated, or even poorly organized and executed. How can we use these moments to model and explore the impact, feelings, and consequences alongside our child in order to equip them for thriving without us? These 'moments' are what our work at OGMS is all about. Yes, we want the three R's to be well imbedded, all set to take on the next level of complexity, but more importantly, we believe a big chunk of time must be invested in the 'moment'.....whatever that moment might be. Opportunities to increase the health and awareness of our social and emotional capacities are never ending....for 18 month olds or 53 year olds. Every day opportunities are bulldozed over like little pebbles on a path to some critical destination. At Oak Grove, we are relentless about slowing, downshifting, redirecting, so that we might recognize, notice, reflect, or perhaps, learn something from our interactions. Good, bad or ugly, every cause/effect engagement with our environments and the people and objects within them are painting a new stroke inside our emotional frame. Guiding, or letting the pieces fall where they might, is the challenge of daily decision making for the educators at OGMS, it's your work as OGMS parents as well. We are each working and hoping for the best possible outcomes. Outcomes that one day will influence the way our children respond to the celebrations, rejections, conflicts, and inconveniences of life.
I hope you'll enjoy this read about the season of college acceptance, soon to come for many of you!