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How to Avoid Power Struggles

Writer: Carrie FittsCarrie Fitts

two wooden pegs engaged in a power struggle, representing a parent and child
"Power struggles are a lose-lose game—let’s shift the focus to cooperation and choice. ✨ In Montessori, we empower children by offering autonomy within boundaries, turning conflicts into opportunities for growth. #MontessoriMagic #RespectfulParenting"

In a Montessori setting, avoiding power struggles with young children, particularly those aged 1-6, is crucial for fostering an environment of mutual respect and autonomy. This age group thrives in an atmosphere where they feel empowered and understood rather than controlled. Establishing clear routines and using visual aids can significantly reduce conflicts and promote independence. Visual timers, posted daily schedules, visual checklists, and timers for activities like hand washing are essential tools in creating a predictable and organized environment that helps children manage transitions smoothly.


Additionally, it's important to implement other strategies such as offering choices to give children a sense of control, maintaining a calm and patient demeanor to model self-regulation, using positive reinforcement to encourage desired behaviors, setting clear and consistent expectations to avoid confusion, providing appropriate and engaging activities to prevent boredom, and encouraging problem-solving skills to foster independence and confidence. These practices collectively support a harmonious classroom dynamic and help children develop a strong sense of self-regulation and responsibility.




Help children understand and manage time, reducing anxiety and resistance during transitions.



Provide a predictable structure that helps children anticipate and prepare for upcoming activities.



Enable children to follow through with tasks independently, promoting responsibility and self-management.


Tip #4 - Offer choices:


Gives children a sense of control and involvement, minimizing power struggles by involving them in decision-making.


Tip #5 - Maintain a calm and patient demeanor:


Models self-regulation and helps de-escalate potential conflicts, creating a more peaceful environment.


Tip #6 - Use positive reinforcement:


Encourages desired behaviors through praise and rewards, reinforcing the actions you want to see.


Tip #7 - Set clear and consistent expectations:


Keeps children occupied and less likely to engage in disruptive behaviors due to boredom.


Tip #8 - Provide appropriate and engaging activities:


Encourages desired behaviors through praise and rewards, reinforcing the actions you want to see.


Tip #9 - Encourage problem-solving skills:


Fosters independence and confidence, enabling children to resolve conflicts and make decisions more effectively.



Ensure that hygiene routines are consistent and engaging, making them a natural part of the daily routine.


"The child does not want to be told what to do or how to do it - he defends himself from such help. Choice and execution are the prerogatives and conquests of a liberated soul. But after he has done the work, he wants his teacher's approval." -Maria Montessori

 

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